A Child’s Curious Mind

As most of you know, I watch children for a living.  My current family has eight boys.  I’m mostly in charge of the youngest two, but I do have a houseful to care for when school is out.  I had an interesting conversation with the three-year old last week that has been on my mind.

It all started when the nine-year old and I were talking about pictures that we draw.  He loves art.  I told him my father was an artist and that I should bring a few samples of his artwork.  He picked up on the “WAS” as artist, and asked if my father was dead.  I told him that yes, he had passed away many years ago.  The three-year old (I will call him P) must have been listening to the conversation.

A few days later, we are outside playing in the water, when P suddenly asked, “Kathy, is your dad dead?”

I like to answer all questions honestly, but carefully too, if you know what I mean.  I just simply said, “Yes he is.”  and tried to move on with our activity.

P was not ready to end the conversation.  “Why did he die?”

“He was very sick.  He couldn’t get better.”  I answered.

He thought about that for a minute, and then asked. “Why don’t you heal him?”

“Sweety, I couldn’t heal him.  He was just too sick.  Now, let’s play!”

He still was not ready to drop the subject.  “Did you give him a potion?”

P is really curious about the subject.  He plays Minecraft and his character dies, but comes back.  He watches his brothers play video games, and if their avatars are hurt or ill, they use a potion to fix the problem.  I can understand why this is baffling to him.  He probably thinks I’m terrible because I didn’t give my dad a potion.

On the touchy subjects, it’s sometimes hard for me to know how much I should explain without the parent’s permission.  I don’t want to scare a child, but I also don’t want him to think that what he sees on a game is even close to real life!

I just told him that games are not real, they are just pretend, and those kinds of potions only exist on games and not in real life.  I convinced him to not worry about all of that for now and to just have fun playing in the water.  I am going to talk to the parents and let them decide how much they want him to know for now.  I just keep thinking about it and it has been bothering me.  I get into some interesting situations on the job!



Job Hunting Once Again

Once again it is time for me to find summer employment.  Every year it gets harder as I get older!  I spent some time researching and asking people a lot of questions and I found out I charge less than a teen does for child care.  Silly me.

I’m not saying a teen can’t do a great job, that’s not it at all.  But, I have been doing this for over thirty years and have taken many classes and have just a ton of experience under my ample belt!  So, I have been updating our business site and am getting ready to advertise.

I thought about doing something else for my final years of work, but after hours of searching I keep going back to looking for child care jobs!  The thoughts of sitting at a desk all day is enough to get my anxiety going.  I simply can’t sit that long!  At work, one of the kids I watch will notice me pacing and let me know that I’m pacing again.  I sit for a while, but then I find myself pacing again.

I thought about trying for something in retail.  That might work because I can be up and moving more.  But, I don’t know.  While grocery shopping, you will frequently find me spending time in the canned food section making sure the cans are not upside down and that the front of the labels are facing the right way.  When I try on shirts, it takes me forever to get them folded back up just right.  I have to fight the urge to go along and make sure everything is lined up.  Bagging groceries, I try to group things in categories in the bags and my daughter usually just tells me to let her do it because I take too long haha!

So, yeah, I’m looking for a job in a home watching kids again.  I don’t mind so much, really.  I’m pretty good at it and they like me even if I do make them face the consequences of their actions!  I’m hoping to find a summer job and be able to go back to the place I work at now when school is back.  I’ve been there three school years and would like one more year!

Here are pictures of the youngest two of the eight boys in this family.  We just finished making alphabet books.  Q is four and going into Kindergarten next fall.  P is three.  I just noticed P has his binky in his mouth, the bugger!  We have been trying to gently get rid of that and his mom is throwing them away one by one.  He isn’t allowed to have them unless he’s sleeping now, but sometimes he sneaks one past us!  I’m so used to seeing it that I don’t notice haha!  Tricky little guy.